Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Planning for a family

This is a toughie. I read about a debatable topic - Is family planning needed in developing countries?
Well, yes!

I believe that family planning is needed for EVERY family all over the WORLD!

What are examples of unplanned families? What happens when people don't know what they are doing, or don't think of consequences? They make mistakes. If those mistakes involve the lives of people, they can be very costly and irreparable ones. When I think of non-planned families, what I mainly see is poor people, often uneducated ones, living on the streets with loads of children. Who were never taught to think, who just follow nature. That is just partially correct. Unplanned families can be found in plush houses too. There the couple might be told by relatives to have a baby by the time they celebrate their first wedding anniversary, or that might mean a teenager having a relationship and ending up as a single mother. Most cases of abortion will realte to this. Abortion is never a way of "planning". It is an unplanned end of an unplanned journey (unless the needs are medical). Have you seen any couple who have babies just to end their marital fights? I know of one such who adopted a baby girl thinking that would end their issues. How selfish can people be!! These adults could not resolve their own issues and they thought a baby would be able to fix that? What happened finally? They got divorced! Wouldn't that girl ever ask them - why did you intentionally bring me to a broken home? What answer have they got for her? Then there are people who are just fit and fine but would say "who knows how long I'll live, I want to see a grand kid!" That is very selfish too. What would happen if he/she doesn't see a grand kid? Do they know if their children are in a position to have babies? 


I sometimes get amazed at people's irresponsibility and selfishness. 

Children are NOT sent by God. If they were, then people would not have more than they could feed. There is absolutely NO point in having ten kids just because that came naturally and then not being able to provide them with a good quality of life. It is much better to plan for fewer and raise them with proper love, care and dignity. I am not saying people should not have more kids. If they are physically, emotionally and financially able to take care of more, they can. They can adopt kids and provide a loving home for those who would have otherwise been orphans. There is hardly any deed better than this. There are quite a few celebrities who have done this. Even single people can adopt kids nowadays. I think that is an awesome move!

Planning can't be a bad thing. People might (and will) take wrong decisions sometimes, but even then you can't rule out the benefits of planning. Have you ever seen a law been implemented without planning? A town laid or a project started without planning? Financial planning is encouraged in every field. Educational plans give you a roadmap to follow. Then why not plan a family?

A manageable family is the base of a happy one. There the kids get enough love, care and attention. That enables us to create happy and healthy (yes, mentally healthy too) future citizens of the world.

4 comments:

Reea said...

Hmm... humara ek na holeo jotogulo sombhob, totogulo. 2to ta ami nije khub prefer kori...dekha jak. Chhobi ta chinte perecho to?

bhut said...
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bhut said...

amar mote humara ek howai bhalo, tarpor o if u cud afford and long for, tahole adopt koro... some family-less will get family..
mayer sorir shasthou bhalo thakbe ar bhogoban-dada khushi o hoben ar deshe population scenario tao unnoto hobe.

Reea said...

Adopt korar idea ta joto bhalo, totoi difficult. Aro difficult jodi bari te already ekta bachha thake. Practically sob somoye possible hoy na. Tobe ha, jara nitey pare tader to kono kathai nei!! Ami personally 2 to bachha pachhondo kori. Only child (mane jara absolute only child, amader moto na) tader onek problem dekhechi ami. Maniye nitey pare na, selfish hoy, nijer ta hoye gele ar karur jonye bhabe na, share korte shekhe na...tai amar 2to ta bhalo lage. Nijera nijera khelte pare, boyesh er difference 2-4 yrs holey aro bhalo.