Wednesday, December 03, 2014

Two families that enlightened Bengal

I have probably said this a million times, but I'll say it once more - I feel very proud to be a Bengali. However, recently, I was hearing about many weird behaviors which are not the stuff that Bengalis used to like. A class of people whose motto in life could be defined in a one liner as - plain living and high thinking doesn't really match the heavy drinking, party going and slang speaking people I now see back home. It is sad how a region famous for being the cultural hub of the nation has fallen into such a deplorable condition. I was thinking about this change and wondered if things are really getting bad or if I am getting old. Maybe it's both...then to free my mind I started listening to Debabrata Biswas on Spotify. When Bengalis run into issues, they turn to Rabindranath. Then I thought about these two families - the Tagores and the Rays (or Ray Chowdhurys) who enlightened Bengal and brought our culture up by quite a few notches.

Every Indian has heard about Rabindranath. He is but one jewel of the crown. Almost all of his siblings were endowed with various degrees of creativity. Starting from Prince Dwarakanath, this family has been the home of various philosophers, mathematicians, composers, playwrights and in many cases polymaths. The Tagore household can easily be called the hub of modernism in early Bengal. Other than Rabindranath himself, there were many people worth mentioning. Satyendranath, who was Rabindranath's elder brother was the first Indian ICS. I think the fact that he urged his wife Gyanadanandini to accompany him to his workplace in Bombay is a more creditable thing than him being an ICS. This lady was the one who taught Bengali women how to wear a saree in a modern style. Whoever wears a saree these days, even the ones who look up Youtube videos on how to drape a saree are actually indirectly following her directions! Jyotirindranath was another elder brother of Rabindranath. He was a playwright and composer. There are quite a few songs where he composed the tune while playing the piano and Rabindranath would put words on the fly. Swarnakumari was Rabindranath's elder sister who was the first woman in India to edit a magazine. Other than these people, there were various nephews, nieces and other relatives who have all shone in various facets of life. One of them whom I like a lot is the painter and story teller Abanindranath.

Almost overlapping the age of Rabindranath was the family of Rays. Upendrakishore Ray Chowdhury was a stalwart of that family, but here also there were many other people who were famous for being professors of Math and Sanskrit and also being great cricket players at the same time. More or less everyone wrote books. One brother worked at the Geological Survey of India so he wrote stories about wild animals while traveling to various parts of the undivided country. Sukumar Ray is a personal favorite of mine. Someone I would like to meet in heaven if possible. I can see myself talking to him, reading his works, laughing and enjoying every moment by being the crazy self that I am. The magazine that Upendrakishore started which Sukumar and later his son Satyajit also were editors of is so far the best children's magazine in Bengali. Now that I am growing older, I can understand how they tried to imbibe the best things in the whole society by teaching children the right things in a fun way. Those editions have riddles, puzzles, contests for children, story writing competitions which I like even now. Arnab bought a compiled copy of all the editions of the first year. Even though it is more than a century old we both love reading it. Satyajit Ray was probably the last lamp of the Bengal Renaissance. People might call him a movie director, a writer or composer or even artist, I would call him a teacher. In every book he wrote for young children and in almost all the movies he directed, he taught us something. Be it the right pronunciation of Job Charnock's name (it is pronounced "Jobe" and not job as in work) or how camels store water, he taught us all those. Satyajit Ray's aunt, Leela Majumdar is another personal favorite of mine. She taught me to cook, if not anything else, and reading her recipes give me the same enjoyment as reading a fun story book.

If these two families didn't exist, not that we would lose some of the best minds of our society, we would possibly still be in the dark ages. In everything I do, I say, even my tastes in literature and music, my views about the society and the world are in some means the result of what these two families endowed us with and indirectly how I was molded.

Monday, December 01, 2014

Living the American Dream

In the developing world, there are generally two sorts of people - one are the "liberals" who don't like the West. Who assumes that the West (including USA) is the embodiment of capitalism and all sorts of vices that come with material pleasures, a loose society and consumerism. The second bucket thinks that the West is a dream world. As if everyone is rich, houses are elaborate, streets impeccable and life more or less quite heavenly. Well, I am generalizing for sure, but these are the two ends of the scale. While none of the above facts are true, both are somewhat true. I don't agree with all societal norms here, there are places which are extremely dirty, not everyone follows the law, but also the general work culture is great, generally people are law abiding, an ambulance will arrive on time, etc.

Immigrants have flocked to USA over hundreds of years. Even Wikipedia says that the first sight of the Statue of Liberty signified a new life to many immigrants who came here over the years in search of a better life. They can be software professionals like me wanting a better quality of education and a healthy workplace or they can be a person from Africa wanting to just live like a human being. The common thing is the American Dream, about which Wikipedia says - "In the definition of the American Dream by James Truslow Adams in 1931, "life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement" regardless of social class or circumstances of birth.

I sometimes look back at my life and think. A few weeks back I was sitting at our break room during lunch waiting for my buddy as he was heating up his food. I looked across over Lake Washington towards Seattle and down below at the lunch time crowd walking busily down in Bellevue. I sat and thought how did I land up here? I was out in a totally different city half way round the globe, leading a totally different life. Where was Lake Washington and Bellevue and Concur and my buddy ten years back? How did my life change? What changed? What did it enrich me with?

I am a big proponent of leaving home and residing in other countries, with people of other cultures. So it is really rewarding how my (and people like me) slowly learn new things. Arnab was saying how they are learning basic greetings in Turkish and Chinese and teaching their team the same in Hindi and Bengali. Was this part of his job description? No. But is that enriching him? Yes, for sure! My American dream is not about buying expensive cars or designer wear. I think I have evolved out of those because I don't see any value in them. Neither do I want to live in a huge impersonal mansion.

My dream is to be myself.



To be what I am without any inhibition. To live in a society that does not judge, to work where someone who speaks up is cherished and not snubbed down. To have opportunities to help others without people mocking me. To have a career that helps me grow and have hobbies I love. To learn, to travel, to talk, to experience....even to have healthy pets.

After a year of coming to US I wrote an article on the changes in my life. Those were apparent from the surface, after six more years I realize the deeper things. The stuff that has opened my eyes, the things that have taught me to be less judgmental and to be more compassionate. And also the little things which are actually not so little. Like a sky full of stars beside the Pacific, snow storm at Mt. Rainier, the multitude shades of blue at Hapuna Beach, talking with friends from the world over about their homelands, being invited to eat a turkey at Thanksgiving, giggling over a cup of Starbucks coffee with crazy coworkers, setting up my own home, cuddling with my babies, finding the right guy to get married to...and in all these things really finding who I am.