Situation 1: A three year old girl asks her grand mom, "dad goes to work, uncle goes to work, aunt goes to work, why doesn't mom go too?" Heaps of praise were loaded on this mom at the time she got married because she was (and still is) such a naive, docile pretty little girl.
Situation 2: Another two year old girl is told by her parents that everyone in their house works, so must she. She fixes the wires of her dad's computer and put papers in the printer tray to earn money which is put in her college fund. Both her parents are smart and super hard workers (each of them run their own businesses).
Tell me, which girl from the above situations would grow up to be an independent lady with strong will and respect her parents more?
I was reading some article by Chetan Bhagat that a friend shared on Facebook and though I absolutely agree with what Bhagat has mentioned, the question that still remains is - why? Why do we still have to explain why working women need to be respected? Today when guys prefer girls who would by no means become a threat to their own fragile ego, even with the talks of the new millennium and the latest science fiction type gadgets, I am left to wonder "are we really progressing?"
We have had enough talk on how husbands (or in cases, in-laws) have stopped the career graph of women but have we ever thought about women who are parasitic and love to spend their lives depending on their husbands' incomes? Think about it, we kind of appreciate them. We say how nice they are. Soft spoken, unassuming. On the other hand, we have said that careerist women are arrogant, they don't care about anyone, they do exactly what they want. Why do we say that? Perhaps we are jealous? Or we think of them as threats, people whom we cannot "control", who would never look up to us just because that's expected of them? Who knows!
I cannot stress enough on the fact that every one must reach their potential. Being under-challenged is no good. It's a waste.
Think of the precious thing called "life" we have been endowed with. Who knows if we'll get another life, ever. Wouldn't it be an utter waste to live life without really "living" it?
When I was small, I remember my dad saying that higher studies and getting a respectable job (preferably in sci-tech) should be my top priority, because I was not born to "spend my life in the kitchen". Now I see Chetan Bhagat saying the exact same thing! Another thing to mention here is though my mom is still working as a senior professor and I have grown up seeing her attend international conferences meeting internationally renowned people with a cool and unique way so characteristic of herself, her petite frame dressed in sophisticated silk sarees, it is my dad who is at the helm at all times. He had seen the goal years before I realized what I am good at :-) I sometimes thought the push came a little too hard (especially when he scrutinized my low scores at high school maths) but at least that made me realize that an independent strong willed woman will be respected much more in the long run.
Foot note: A husband who realizes he is a "partner" and a "friend" is a great gift as well :)
Situation 2: Another two year old girl is told by her parents that everyone in their house works, so must she. She fixes the wires of her dad's computer and put papers in the printer tray to earn money which is put in her college fund. Both her parents are smart and super hard workers (each of them run their own businesses).
Tell me, which girl from the above situations would grow up to be an independent lady with strong will and respect her parents more?
I was reading some article by Chetan Bhagat that a friend shared on Facebook and though I absolutely agree with what Bhagat has mentioned, the question that still remains is - why? Why do we still have to explain why working women need to be respected? Today when guys prefer girls who would by no means become a threat to their own fragile ego, even with the talks of the new millennium and the latest science fiction type gadgets, I am left to wonder "are we really progressing?"
We have had enough talk on how husbands (or in cases, in-laws) have stopped the career graph of women but have we ever thought about women who are parasitic and love to spend their lives depending on their husbands' incomes? Think about it, we kind of appreciate them. We say how nice they are. Soft spoken, unassuming. On the other hand, we have said that careerist women are arrogant, they don't care about anyone, they do exactly what they want. Why do we say that? Perhaps we are jealous? Or we think of them as threats, people whom we cannot "control", who would never look up to us just because that's expected of them? Who knows!
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I cannot stress enough on the fact that every one must reach their potential. Being under-challenged is no good. It's a waste.
Think of the precious thing called "life" we have been endowed with. Who knows if we'll get another life, ever. Wouldn't it be an utter waste to live life without really "living" it?
When I was small, I remember my dad saying that higher studies and getting a respectable job (preferably in sci-tech) should be my top priority, because I was not born to "spend my life in the kitchen". Now I see Chetan Bhagat saying the exact same thing! Another thing to mention here is though my mom is still working as a senior professor and I have grown up seeing her attend international conferences meeting internationally renowned people with a cool and unique way so characteristic of herself, her petite frame dressed in sophisticated silk sarees, it is my dad who is at the helm at all times. He had seen the goal years before I realized what I am good at :-) I sometimes thought the push came a little too hard (especially when he scrutinized my low scores at high school maths) but at least that made me realize that an independent strong willed woman will be respected much more in the long run.
Foot note: A husband who realizes he is a "partner" and a "friend" is a great gift as well :)
4 comments:
We are so happy to know that you have realized the core of your existence and our efforts to make your take up your right path (although we know sometimes there were showdowns). We are also very relieved to have Arnab by your side to share all your happiness and sorrow and to encourage you towards your goal. God bless you both.
:D khyak khyak khyak :D
ami lekhar first part ta porei bhebe rekhechilum chetan bhagat er last para ta comment e quote korbo... tarpor dekhi tui ota thekei inspired hoe likhechhis... i like the last para jekhane he is urging indian men to celebrate our succesful women not only tolerate them..."We may have less hot phulkas, but we will have a better nation."
Khyakzz!! Ekta byapar, Chetan Bhagat jeta point out koreni seta holo unlike or wife, ekhane kintu mohila ra career ar barir kaj dutoi manage kore. Marissa Mayer ekhon hoyto kajer lok rakhte pare, kintu jokhon o Google er 20th employee hoye dhukechilo tokhon nishchoyi o sob kaj nijei korto. Arekta point holo, non-working women ra onek somoy careerist mom der ektu thesh diye bole je "amra to chhele meye ke nijei manush kori" ba, tara bolte chaye "being a mom is a full time job". Egulo hoyto tader inferiority complex theke ashe kintu jinish ta bhul. Working mom ra, in that case 2to full time job kore :)
Marissa Mayer hotat besh naam korlo. Mohila'r profile ta ashadharon! Stanford theke BS ar MS kora Computer Science e with Artificial Intelligence as specialization. Dekhar moto profile. Amader je CIO ache, Robin, seo ek ghyama profile-er mashima type mohila.
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